Showing posts with label philosophy. Show all posts
Showing posts with label philosophy. Show all posts

The Worth of an Option

What do you need to recuperate from, after the death of a loved one? And, what does society offer you the luxury of?



Almost towards the end of Norwegian Wood, the main protagonist runs away into the hills to recover from the loss of a person with whom he shared a difficult relationship. 
We all lose people. People we love, people we care about, people we want to hold onto. And, sometimes we feel their worth, their importance, once there is no way they can walk back.
"The dead remain dead." 

When you lose someone and it triggers an unusual feeling in you, a confused state. A state which shouts at you, "You never cared about the existence of this person. Yet their departure, their ultimate absence is gnawing you from inside."
This is the loss of option. 
Now, you longer have that person.
Now, you can't muster up the courage to resurrect them back into your life. This death of an option is more palpable than the death of the person. This is how some people go away, their involvement in our lives, is categorically more important than them as a person!
Such a tragedy! It is!

Some people die early, some people die alone, some people don't die, only their worth as an option dies, as they were long dead much before their body succumbed. They were dead for the people they considered to be the most important people in their life. This is unfair. Is life fair?


Philosophy of Love - What do I know about Love?

Most people in love, proclaim : -He/She is the one -This is the best thing that has happened to me -I have never felt like this and will never feel like this, again in my life

None of the above statements have the gravity to last long. It's just a concoction of hormones, childhood issues, availability & desperation, that makes people feel so utopic about their state of mind.

People in love idolise the other person, they want to see everything from a rose-tinted glass. Each and every inadequacy or shortcomings appear kitschy, endearing & cute.


What really has happened is that they have found a sense of assurance, comfort, and a non-judgmental sphere. The sphere in which they want to coalesce together.


Now, if they really wanted to become one, they started with two ones, they joined themselves into one! Is this really necessary?

Now, you may say they have physical, emotional & dare I say, psychological needs. Yes! You are in the appropriate direction. This is ‘Need’!

Our ‘needs’ camouflage in the form of love.

Now, if I may ask, What is love? What do you love about the other person? Or Why do you love them? Stop! Don’t Answer! Any answer or even an attempt to answer these questions mean you don’t love them!

Love is not dependent on reasons, love is not a means but an end in itself.
Well! What do I know about love, you may ask!
Don’t you think even I happen to have the above mentioned follies in me?
Yes! I have fallen head over heels not once but … leave it at that
And, each time I felt enamoured in a new way altogether!

Truth Time!
You only love, truly! You only love yourself! Everything else is just our inadequacies, lack of connection with the self, finding a refuge in another person!

You will have to take my word for it!